Since being separated from my thirteen year buoy, the job that figuratively and perhaps literally saved my life, I've failed and fallen on my ass really really hard and ugly. I was heartbroken and desperate to feel security. I didn't find it. I clawed and scratched my way to nothing. I was very angry about that. I took a lover and abused him. I gave just enough of myself to keep him around and denied anything he asked. When he presented me with an ultimatum, I told him (in not so many words) that there was a whole world of women out there who would be willing to respond to his requests. I was wearing my armor, so either he wanted to battle or he was of no use to me. I was incapable of removing it. There was no discussion. When he returned to withdraw his ultimatum a few weeks later, I turned him away. That was probably the most merciful thing I could do. I didn't let anyone in close enough to love me. It's not that I felt undeserving. I was tired of being hurt. I am tired of it. I've had a life full of unreciprocated unconditional love. The wellspring is tapped. At least that's what I thought.
I walked around feeling down and awful. I wondered why everything had to be such a struggle. I thought every easy acquisition was some sort of trick. I believed, during this entire transition, that I was being crushed, broken down to the barest foundation so that I could rebuild. I release you, sob story. You were a lie. All this time I thought that I was clinging to my sanity, but it was the armor that I exhausted myself trying to clutch. Now, I am naked. It's uncomfortable. I feel too exposed. I feel a bit embarrassed by how exposed I am. I want to cover myself up, but I know that the effort is useless. I don't have to fight anymore. Good, because I don't want to. I have no expectations. I have no plan. I have no goals. I have no direction. I have no focus. I have no motivation. None of those things served me. I release them all. I release them and accept the one thing I am certain that I do have - this moment. Maybe it can be enough.
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